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How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

And yes cyber sex is important!

BY Amahle Melokuhle

Apr 23, 2021, 05:08 PM

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Joshua McKnight
Long-distance relationships are hard, we know this. But, that doesn't mean they can't work. What it does mean is that you need to make an effort in some areas that happen naturally in an IRL relationship.

Whether it's work, the pandemic or just the way it's always been being seperated from bae is tough. But it doesn't have to mean the end of romance, love and even sex. Here's our top advice to make sure your relationship works no matter the distance. 

Watch Your (Digital) Tone

Good communication is at the heart of every healthy relationship. Now with you spending more time away from your partner, it’s important that you maintain a healthy communication balance.

Everyone has their preferences when it comes to chatting online; some people reply late, some overuse memes and gifs, and others can’t stop forwarding WhatsApp chain messages. It’s important that you clarify your likes and dislikes and that you do your best not to get into an argument over a misread text message.

(Digital) Date Nights Are Still Important

There’s no reason as to why you can’t get dressed up, and sit across a screen, sharing a glass of your favorite wine. Keeping up with date nights adds a sense of normalcy that can bring you two closer together. 

Don’t let absence define your relationship. Rather than moaning about how much you miss each other, why don’t you make a list of the things you’re looking forward to doing post-lockdown, be it travel destinations or restaurant hotspots?
Don’t just stop at date night. You can place your phone in a good spot in the house and cook together, or watch your favorite movie. Additionally, you can also write them a physical letter or send them an unprompted gift as both will no doubt be well-received.

Try Out Cybersex

It’s interesting times and people are finding new and creative ways to cater to their needs, as well as those of their partners.

Before delving into Skype sex, make sure that you’re comfortable and that you discuss boundaries. There are various forms of long-distance intimacy, ranging from texts, to voice notes to a simple phone call. Find out what you’re comfortable with and see what happens.

In regards to texting, especially images, don’t feel pressured to include your face or your entire body. You can wear clothing as well if you prefer, leaving much to your partner’s imagination.

The Bottom Line

No matter how long you’ve been staying together, or how long you love each other, you and your partner are definitely going to run into conflict. We're all stressed and uncertain about the future, so of course, you’re going to be more aggravated than usual. With that said, it’s important to remember that none of this will last forever. You’re both doing your part to protect everyone’s health. So, forget the unnecessary drama and look forward to the good times you’ll get to enjoy in the future.

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